Hello darlings,
When you start a business of any kind, you need to have a customer base right? A group of people that you attract who desire what you have to offer…
Makes perfect sense, I have a lot to offer, so I desire clientele.

However, I don’t offer a car, a house, not even a utinsel. I offer personality, assistance, guidance, motivation, upbeat kickass positive vibes with a sense of spiritual awareness and intuition to help you move forward in life.
So the word cliënt or customer doesnt sound right, doesnt feel right.. but do we really have a better word? I dont think so, so I made my own!

When you are in training you hvae the trainer and the trainee, coaching is faily similar, so I could be the coach, and you the choachee. That still doesnt feel right somehow, it doesnt look good written down. the sentiment makes perfect sense, I help you reach your goal, your dream your very best self.. so I like the direction.. but it needs to be better.

I simply change the way it is written: Co-Chi. I am the coach, you are my Co-Chi.
Co stands for together, I may be the one who guides, but you have to take responsibility for your life. It is a Cooperative situation.
Chi is the chinese word for energy, life flow, and that is what I want to use with you, we need to have that energetic connection so that I can tune in on you and help you flow and create the very best life you can possibily have. Your life’s energy is my goal, and yours.

Co-Chi, means that I will coach you, we will built your dream together and you get to feel that wonderfull flow of energy  that rises you up to your full potential, and helps you realise that you CAN do en be anythiyg and EVERYTHING you want.

so there we have it, teh story of my new word: Co-Chi!
Get used to it, I will use it a lot!

have an awesome day loves,
byeee

Hello dear you, I hope your day is awesome this far.

I am being brave, and I realise this more and more, and it is pretty cool.
Im not saving puppys, or lives or making a big stand in the face of danger, no I am being brave for me.
This is microlevel, basic, self growth bravery.
The type you need to master if you ever wish to achieve something awesome in life.
It is what you do every time you choose to step out of your comfort zone.

I know, you have spend a lot of time creating this zone, and it is safe and, well, comftable. And it is hard to step out of it… but it is also boring, and eventless and if you ever wish to make a change it is the perfect place to start.

I don’t mean change your life completely, thats overdoing it, I mean just doing something new and exciting.

Like for me this month is pretty brave..
I went on a holiday with 8 clients and 2 colleagues for 5 days. That is way out of my comforzone, because my comfortzone includes my bed, my home, 8 hours of sleep, privacy, the possibility to withdraw and recharge my battery… thats my comfortzone.
5 x 24/7 with colleagues and clients being busy and doing events and being aware and active and basically working on 4 hours of sleep a night if that.. is not in the same zipcode as my comfortzone.
But I did it, and it was awesome! I learned so much about myself and I am very proud of the guts it took to do this.
Like I’ve learned how important it is to have the quality to not-plan. I never thought my chaotic mind would provide me with a lifesaving strategy:  going with the flow, letting things happen as they do, using the rythm of the day and the mood of the day to guide you and everyone else. I was lucky to be with two collgues who are also very easy going and equally flexible and rhymn oriented, rather than time-oriented. So we just flowed everyone along and it worked perfectly!
How cool! I never would have know this if it wasn’t for this week!

Than only yesterday I went to a festival for a day on the other side of the country, I’ve never done anything like that ever! But how cool was that! I saw bands like Madness and Kensington perform live! And the weather was perfect and the people where so great… I wouldnt have missed it for the world!

Now I am creating workshops, starting to coach beautifull people, creating this web of motivation and inspiration and positivity…I  wouldn have been able to do all this if I would have alowed myself to get stuck in my comfortzone.
Because getting yourself out there is scary! It really is! But it is so worth it!

Microbravery, it’s what im all about at the moment people..
Go give it a try.
Step out of your comfort zone and be brave for you, you wont believe how awesome it feels!!

Have a lovely day my beautiful reader
Loving hugs
Marjoleine

A few weeks after that day of feeling, for lack of better word “blah”, sometimes you have a day where you feel awesome.

Today is that day.
I don’t know why, or how, but it is true.

Not the entire day, it started of quite normal, going to work, normal routine, a bit boring to be honest.
But it ended awesome.
I came home at 8 pm, feld like i needed coffee and a workout. I have this bouncer trampoline which is the only excersize I love to do, so that bouncything was a great impuls purchase ( yes sometimes they work out, wahoo!) and I did 20 minutes of actual traning. Than I decided I feld like I needed an relaxing boost. So I made myself a bath.

Not my regular one, my regular bath means hot water, salts, soap, my tablet with youtube on a little table next to the bathtub. Relaxation and entertainment in one.
Pretty awesome, but not what I needed today.
Today I made a calming bath, a inpiring and meditative bath.
Sometimes inuition just tells you to really take some time to focus on you, silently, calmly and honestly.

I took two candles, I took some incense, ran my bath with salts and lavender bubblebath, turned off the lights, lit the candles at the foot of the bath, did a little grounding and protecting meditation and a chakra opening before i slipped in.
I have no idea how long I was in there, but it was magical.

My passion for people, coaching, my calling to help and guide people, my ability to love and care for everyone.. it all became so chrystal clear that I actually ended up crying.
How about that. Good thing I was in the bathtub, easy to freshen up after a few tears haha.

These moments, these rare gifst of calmth and insight are a blessing, and they create a flow and a vibe to remember.
If you have these moments, write them down, remember them.
They are the moments of truth and intuitive knowledge, you will need to remember it when the world tries to make you stumble and doubt yourself.

Remember your gifts, your passions and your souls desire. That is were your power and calling reside.
Never forget the beauty that is you.

Love Marjoleine

You know them right.. those days where you want to do so many things and non of it seems to happen.
I don’t know if it is an ADD related thing, or if everyone has it.. but it is frustrating as.. well as whatever rude word you can insert here haha.

It is this feeling of restlessness batteling boredom, batteling too much you want to do.. and in the end nothing happends and you feel even more restless with a slight load of dissapointment in yourself to top it off.

So what do you do on a day like that. What do you do when you are telling people: hey I am a coach, a motivational speaker and I am going to help you..!  while you are stuggeling yourself with these issues?
Well, you write about it!
It doesnt have to be a good blog, it will probably have lots of typos and spelling mistakes.. but that just adds to the whole point of this little journey into whatever the hec this is.

There is more than one reason for me to write this down:
First of all, if I write this, than at least I am still doing something worthwhile. That helps.
Second, I am only human with my strugles and my day to day life to deal with. I need you to know that. If I want to inspire anyone at all, that I need to show you the stuggles, as much as the successes.
I told you i would take you along on my journey, and days like these are part of it.
They suck.. but they are part of it.

Its weird, when I have some time off I plan on doing all these creative and usefull things… and in the end I do nothing. Than I get most inpiration on days I have to work, and can’t act on it. Maybe my chaotic mind needs the day to days static to perform well haha.
Oh well.. gotta deal with reality as it is.

So here is what I am learning: dont get stuck in the feeling of personal dissapointment. It is only a moment, or a day, and than it’ll be better. No use beating yourself up over it, you’ll only prolong it and invite more of it in. So just get over it.

Also, go do something, anything, even if its just writing a crappy blog about it, so that you have a slight feeling of satisfaction to battle the restlesness with.

And if really nothing you have planned works out, and you are just a coach potato with a gloomy mind.. at least go do it right. Get past the gloom, forget all your plans and use the downtime to relax propperly. Give in to it and stop stressing about it.
Put on your comfy clothes, get a cuppa and a roll of cookies, sit back watch your favorite movie and just let it all go.
If it truly has to be one of those days.. you might aswell take advantage of it.

I know I will.

Love ya,
Marjoleine                                                                                                    Rotterdam, 3 may 2016

Hello dear reader,

I have a job, a house, loving family and great friends. I have my health and everyone I know is fairly healthy and quite happy. I live in the great city Rotterdam, where I was also born. I bought the house I loved, in the neighbourhood i wanted, my morgage is very doable, i have money left on my spending account every month and I started my second study, to get my second bachelor degree.
I have a truly blessed life. I am thankful for it every moment I am aware of this.

I also have ADD, and i have a fairly theosophical outlook on what life is. You might even call it spiritual. I did untill yesterday, when I saw a lecture about theosophy and realised that this matched my ways of viewing the world quite nicely. You learn something every day haha.

Anyway, having this mindset, I have learned sertain things, the law of attraction for one. It is how i got my job, my house, my diagnosis right when I needed it and probably a lot more I am not even aware of right now.
It is a great and powerfull tool, but it has a way of working, eve when you are not using it.

See i love my life, but not everything in it fits anymore. I have had the nagging feeling that I can do more with who I am as a person and everything I have learned so far. So i have been focussing on this a lot, focussing on this nagging incomplete feeling. wich led to universe showing me more and more how incomplete it is. since that is the vibe i am invting in.
i did not focus my energy and intent on what i did want to achieve, i focused it on not being my best. so i was less and less my very best self and got more an dmore confirmation of this. not very motivational now, is it?

When you start to believe the negativity of others, because it reflects your fear and your self image, that becomes a slippery slope.
As you slide down it into more self doupt, at sertain points during that slide, you have the chance to reach out and grab something or someone to help you get the fuck off that journey down. I know I have missed a few outstrechted hands, escape hatches and rope ladders, but at some point, I looked around and saw that rope with knots I could grab.
And I did.

I started a climb, one knot at the time, back to who I am. Back to what I want from life. Back to my dreams and passions. Back to what i can and should do. Up towards the realisation of why I feel un-whole, and what great gifsts i have to offer the world.

I am now, out of the slippery slope. I have learned that I am not living to my full potential. o realise that i might not comletely know what my full potiential might entail, but I do know what direction feels right. I do know that i need to make a start and start moving towards my dreams. And that every step and positive action and thought I create, will create that equal reaction from the universe.

These are my first steps.
My tweets, my video’s, this blog, this website, the book im writing, the workshop I am creating this very month, the help I ask and recieve, the motivation, the inpiration, going to a lecture to see how to speak well infront of a crowd of people (and learning that i am theosophical to boot!).
And in the long run: the study I do to be able to become a coach with an actual degree to coach professionally (bachelor degree in applied psychology) next to already having a bachelor degree in social work.
It is all leading up to something great! Something inspiring, something i can give and share and offer to this lovely world filled with people who need that little nudge to recocnise their rope, their escape hatch and rope ladder.
Every soul you touch in a positive way, is a soul who will spread that positivity.
All you need is a start.
This is mine.
Now lets see where we can end up! I can’t wait!

March 21st 2016, Rotterdam

Oké even back to basics..

Ik ben in de 30, en ik heb de nodige ups en downs en lessen ervaren als het om zelfvertrouwen gaat.
En ik weet 1 ding, het is niet altijd makkelijk, maar het is wel altijd mogelijk!

Zelfvertrouwen is namelijk leerbaar.

Niet iedereen heeft een veilige start gehad, dus niet iedereen heeft van huis uit meegekregen hoe je op jezelf kan vertrouwen.

En al heb je dat wel. dan nog kom je momenten in je leven tegen dat je gaat twijfelen.

Het moment dat je erachter komt dat je volgens de normen van familie en docenten hebt geleefd, en wilt weten wat jij van jezelf mag verwachten..
Het moment dat je erachter komt dat je maar 1 leven hebt, en niet doet waar je blij van wordt, maar niet weet ‘hoe nou verder’..
Het moment dat je beseft dat je relatie je niet gelukkig maakt, maar je jezelf afvraagt wie je ook al weer bent zonder die persoon…

Allemaal ‘oh crap’ momenten die vroeg of laat voorbij komen fietsen en waar je ‘iets mee moet’.

Je kan dit natuurlijk in je uppie gaan uitzoeken, en dat zal je ongetwijfeld ook best gaan lukken, het duurt alleen wel vaak een paar jaar.
Je kan naar een therapeut gaan, en je identiteitscrisis helpen uitpluizen.
Je kan het ook negeren in de hoop dat het een fase is die over gaat.

Of je kan mij een mailtje sturen om te vragen of ik eens naar je situatie wil kijken.
Daar ben ik altijd toe bereid.